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Sometimes there is that rare
moment that causes one to reflect on those matters that
are deemed important and deflect those that are not. It is
a very humbling experience but a nice feeling
nevertheless. I had one of those moments.
Spring time has many
activities for kids. The most notable, or at least it was
when I was young, is baseball. Moving into a new area and
signing up Evan (10) and Dimitri (8) in the winter was
originally intended to have them participate in an
activity they were familiar with and hopefully sidetrack
the wonderful memories they had in our previous home
during the moving transition. Signing them up came with
conditions, particularly from Evan. He would play if I
could become his coach. Now the pressure was on me. I knew
agreeing to this condition would make my already hectic
life even more difficult. But there comes a time where you
just do it, and live with the consequences. I agreed to
become a coach.
Little League was divided
into 4 divisions. T-Ball, Coach Pitch, Major Minor, and
Little League. Since Evan was 10 and they were unfamiliar
with his abilities, he had to participate in a tryout. If
he wasn’t picked, he would automatically go to the Major
Minor division. Dimitri already qualified for Major Minors
and did not need a tryout. If he did tryout, they
would’ve discovered a natural athlete who already
possessed skills that surpassed his older brother. The
tryout was preceded with a voluntary clinic which we
participated in. Watching him from the sidelines with the
other boys, it was apparent that he really wasn’t
skilled at the game. It was disheartening since this was a
game that I played faithfully throughout my youth and
ended as a starting pitcher for my high school team. I
started to feel very guilty watching him at the clinic.
Why did I not spend more time with him teaching the game?
His frustration showed but he completed the clinic. During
the clinic I was told by one of the organizers the coaches
for Little League were intact, basically the same ones
from the previous years, but there was a need for a Major
Minor coach and that Dimitri could play for me and if Evan
was not going to be picked for Little League he also could
play for me. I agreed to do it and looked forward in
seeing both of my sons play together and under my
direction.
The tryout was the
following week at the local high school gym. The gym was
divided by an air wall. I observed the parents sitting in
the bleachers while some kids were warming up by throwing
to each other. On the other side of the air wall were the
coaches conducting drills in groups of 5 or 6. Parents
were not permitted to observe the drills. I asked Evan to
go on the floor and start warming up with some of the
kids, but he was reluctant. Being shy to begin with,
coupled with not knowing any of the kids; he was very
hesitant to go out. It was frustrating to me since I knew
he really needed the practice. Finally he went on the
floor to throw. Just watching his poor mechanics made me
feel bad again. I felt this was going to be a damaging
episode to his ego and eliminate any idea that baseball
was a cool sport. They called his name and he disappeared
onto the other side. Afterwards when asked how he did, he
simply said OK.
Much to our surprise, we
received a call from Frank a coach for the Little League,
who informed us that Evan was going to play on his team.
Evan was elated, I was shocked. Never in my mind did I
think he would make it.
Frank, we were told by
others in the league, was a tough coach who approached the
game with a no nonsense attitude. At this first practice,
this was very apparent. He was a drill sergeant, calling
kids knuckleheads, demanding their utmost attention and
not tolerating a bad effort. Despite his apparent
demeanor, I learned this team, the Rockies, won the league
last year going undefeated. In fact he lost very little
over the years. When I asked him if could become an
assistant coach, he calmly told me he already had 2
assistant coaches, the maximum allowed under league rules.
I could however, participate in the drills if I wished. So
I did. I helped out a coach named Phil, whose son was on
the team and one of the stars, with the outfield players
of whom Evan was grouped with. The other coach, Kevin, was
usually working with the infielders.
Evan could not catch a fly
ball nor throw it with any strength. But he seemed eager.
Coach Phil was very encouraging and afterwards told me the
things he felt I should do to help him get better. I
listened. I did not want to be arrogant and explain to him
I knew the game of baseball. If I did, how would I explain
why my son was so poor? When Evan came to bat it was even
uglier. Standing close to the backstop with Frank throwing
batting practice, he did not hit even one. But Frank was
encouraging, time and time again saying it was his fault
for not throwing better. This might have been somewhat
true since Evan was the last one to bat and his arm was
probably shot. The rest of the kids already had gathered
by the pitchers mound knowing Evan was not going to hit
anything remotely close to the infield. And gathering the
balls was too easy since they were all laying around
Evan’s feet from all of the pitches thrown and missed.
It was disheartening.
As time went on and I
started to get more involved with coaching my own team and
Dimitri, getting to see Evan practice was difficult. His
catching and throwing seemed to improve slightly but his
hitting was the same. But somehow he hung in there, and
fortunately, the rest of his teammates never made fun of
him. There was camaraderie with the boys and the coaches.
The coaches continued to be supportive and encouraging.
Then the games started for
real. Evan would play for an inning or two in right field
and typically bat just once. He had made a couple of nice
plays in the outfield but his batting consisted of either
walking (rarely) or striking out (mostly). He never
complained nor did his attitude change. Come practice or
game time he was eager to be out there, listen to the
coaches, and enjoy the practice of being a kid with the
rest of his teammates. The team lost their first game of
the year. Afterwards the dejection and silence emanating
from the dugout was prevalent except from Evan. He made a
statement heard by all, “hey it’s only one game, and
we are not going to lose them all”. I was stunned to
hear him say that, but very proud. So were his coaches.
Evan had no idea how winning was all that most kids knew
playing under Frank, but he brought it all into
perspective. The team bounced back with some wins. They
were not going to be the dominating team they were last
year, but they still were among the top. But as the games
went on, he still struck out for his only time at bat. But
the coaches still kept encouraging him. Frank kept saying
not to be discouraged and Phil kept working on his swing.
One day coming home my wife
was elated. She told me at practice Evan practically hit
every ball that Frank threw to him. This was confirmed by
Evan who was noticeably excited by this new development.
He started to build confidence. I went to the next
practice and noticed that, although he missed a few and
the kids were still gathering around the pitching mound
when he batted, he did get the bat on the ball. What I
also experienced was something you do not see often. The
parents of the kids, particularly the stars of the team,
showed a lot of interest in the progress of Evan. He was
the kid to really root for, the underdog. They were very
supportive of him.
Dimitri and I had just
finished a practice with our own team and headed to the
Little League field where Evan was having a game. We
arrived around the 5th inning. The team was winning 4-0.
Evan had not batted yet. He saw me and without hesitation
asked if we could get Chinese food after the game. At
first I told him no, since my wife had prepared a really
nice dish. He is crazy about food and the dejection gave
him a sour pus. I then said to him that if he got a hit I
would get him Chinese food. He relayed this information to
Jeff the scorekeeper. Jeff is a school teacher and father
to one of the ployers. He has a very upbeat attitude, a
lot of enthusiasm and a great liking towards Evan. He came
to me and said there may be a possibility that he may not
get to bat due to his position in the lineup and the game
being late in the innings. But he assured Evan I would get
him the Chinese food anyway.
As it turned out Evan got a
chance to bat. There were two outs and a man on base. The
kid from the opposing team still looked pretty good and
throwing hard. Evan had always remarked that he felt the
pitchers he opposed threw very hard so I always felt he
came to the plate already intimidated. The first pitch
thrown was high but Evan swung at it and managed to foul
it off. A foul ball from Evan was a cause to celebrate and
he received applause from his teammates and from the
parents. The next pitch was also high and Evan put his bat
on the ball cleanly. It was a grounder between the second
and first basemen into right field. A clean hit.
The applause was as if
someone hit a homerun. I turned to my wife and gave her a
big hug and a kiss. She was elated. I looked at my son at
first base and he was beaming. That look of satisfaction
was enough to send through my heart this warmness and
elation that stopped time, and for a moment I was living
his moment. The more he smiled, the more I smiled. The boy
was walking on air. The ball was retrieved by the coaches
so that he could have it signed by his teammates. They did
not score and the inning had ended, but the rousing high
fives and genuine love the kids and parents had for this
wonderful moment caused him to finally feel like he
contributed, he was really part of this team. The elation
did not stop. I have never seen him run so fast to his
position in right field.
After the game had ended, I
turned to Frank, Phil, and Kevin and told them all “Good
job guys”. Just a normal thing to say but it carried a
lot of emotion. The base hit was a confirmation. The
desire to keep on trying, never give up, encouraging
others who are less skilled than you. This is what the
game should be about. A lesson about life and love.
I took him to get Chinese
food, just the both of us. I looked at him and said that
was a really special moment. He just smiled and said,
“Yeah, it really was, I got a base hit”. No son, you
and I got more than that.
© 2004 - William A. Patsis
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About
The Author
William
A. Patsis is a free lance writer with
interests in sports, politics, and humor.
He currently resides in High Falls, NY.
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