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I want you to meditate on a
couple points for a moment:
1. Why an earth are you
playing golf?
2. What are you getting out
of each round?
3. What is the point?
Have you ever thought about
any of these points before??
Here is an excerpt from
"The Dave Way"... if you already own "The
Dave Way" please read this one more time to get a few
ideas of why you are on the course every weekend.
Pride
It’s almost like a proud
parent raising a child successfully. You start out hardly
knowing anything about the game. Your scores are usually
horrible (in my case around 125) and your swing mechanics
are usually pathetic. Your shot making is non-existent and
your drives are short and very unimpressive.
And then, round after round
(and after many nights and $’s spent at the practice
range) you slowly start to improve. I remember the first
day I broke 100 - and then the first day I broke 90 - and
then the first day I broke 80... few feelings in the world
come close.
Status
Let’s face it, golf is
rich in tradition. And whether right or wrong, those that
have mastered the sport are generally stuck at the top of
the social ladder in the clubhouse locker rooms and
sometimes even in the workplace.
Let’s say you’re
talking to your buddies about a local golfer and then
somebody in your group mentions this person is a scratch
golfer, no matter what you though beforehand you hold that
person in a higher regard for some reason.
Focus
Even though focus is not
necessarily why a person would pick up the game of golf,
after playing for a little while you will realize the game
can improve your mental toughness, your mental awareness,
and eventually your outlook on life.
Now I know that may sound a
little deep and possibly a tad cheesy, but it’s the
honest truth. If you have been playing golf (even for just
one season) you know there are many ups and downs
associated with the sport. Those ups and downs can be
found between years of playing, between rounds, between
holes, and sometimes (but hopefully not) between shots.
Through all these good
times and bad times you learn perseverance. You develop
goal setting skills. If you stick with the sport (I
can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “I’m
going to sell my sticks in the paper tomorrow!”) you
will build up a “stick to it” type of attitude.
Your mind will become
sharp!
No wonder those that have
mastered this sport are generally known as over-achievers.
Health
Even though I have listed
health as number 4, this is one of the main reasons I
picked up a golf club.
My body was never in, what
you would call, real good or athletic shape. And when I
would watch golf on the tube I noticed a some of the men
playing had guts… excuse me… un-chiseled abs J. Kind
of like yours truly.
I though to myself “All
my buddies are skiing, shooting hoops, hitting tennis
balls, or playing golf… looks like golf is the best way
I can fit in”.
But what I soon found out
is that golf has a sneaky way of adding a little bit of
exercise to your life. And that’s great for those of us
that hate to take the time out to exercise.
On a side note, I would
encourage everyone to walk the course once in a while.
Here is what I suggest to my students who are golf
newbie’s: After playing a year or two, instead of trying
to back up from the white tees to the blue, try to walk
more this year and wait until next year to back up to the
blue tees.
Fun
When I play golf I have a
great time.
Fellowship with friends or
being paired up with someone I don’t know and making new
friendships is another awesome benefit golf has to offer.
And there is nothing more
exciting than dropping an approach shot next to the pin,
sinking a monster putt, or smashing a long drive in front
of your playing partners.
These are some of the
reasons I play, but I think it is very important to figure
out why you are out slapping balls around too.
Figuring out the purpose of
golf in your life can only make you a better golfer... let
me explain:
When I started off playing,
I was not that good, as I'm sure many of you weren't. That
being said, I would get so frustrated at the poor shots,
the missed putts, the doubles and triples, and double
pars. And most of the time I would act like a complete
fool. I would get frustrated to no end... slamming my
clubs down, or throwing them, and it was a given that I
would be ticked off the rest of the day.
I can't imagine what I must
of looked like, probably an imbecile. There are guys that
I'm playing with that are 20-30 strokes better than me,
but I'm the one acting like an idiot. And there is no
doubt in my mind that this foolish behavior and mindset
totally stunted my growth as a baby golfer.
Then I realized, the only
way to learn and get better is to play purpose-driven
golf... even if the only purpose for my next round was
strictly just to have fun.
What I would like for you
to do before the next time you go play a round is ask
yourself "Why am I going out today?"
If you keep a focus through
your round that:
I am out here to have fun
or
I am out here to hang out
with my friends
or
I am out here to get
healthy and be physically active
or
I am out here to feel like
I accomplished something today...
then you will have that
reason and not let your mind run aimlessly with emotion.
I'm sure some of you
old-timers have learned this over the years (and by the
way I would love to hear from you if you have a relative
story dave@thedaveway.com).
This is usually why if you have hit a round with a person
that has played for years... they may not have the talent
that you do... but they can score right with you or
sometimes beat the snot out of you.
Let the poor shots go away,
let the good shots not get you too emotionally high...
just learn from each swing!
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